11. The Elevation of Connection: Relationships Done Right

Growth

Growth means developing what is in you and using it for other people. You stop making the relationship only about yourself. We need to see how men and women elevate each other.

What she feels

When he grows, he supports her. He has her best interests in mind. He finds out what she wants, what she is interested in, what moves her. He takes her out. A coffee. He asks questions. He wants to get to know her. He makes experiences with her. She can trust him. She can rely on him. He does it because he wants to, with care. Even as a man pursues this, she will feel peace. This is what she has been looking for. It is rare and special.

What he feels

For the man who grows, and who supports her that way, the energy that creates in her lifts him. He feels able. All-powerful. Like Zeus standing on the mountain.

When she feels that peace, and he is the one supporting her, you have made something words cannot describe.

That is why you grow. Everything else is a short pleasure that leaves you worse.