3. A Perfect Vision

Introduction

Like two colors beautifully blending on a canvas, relationships at their best can become a harmonious blend of two individuals, where the edges blur, and a new hue of love, companionship, and mutual growth emerges. This exercise, titled "A Perfect Vision", is designed to help you and your partner achieve this state of unity.

In this unity, your desires and dreams align with those of your partner, your joys and sorrows resonate with theirs, and what's good and important for them becomes equally valuable to you. You perceive each other not merely as two separate entities but as integral parts of a cohesive whole, a unit that can only exist with the sum of its parts.

This notion might appear abstract, but think of it as creating an ideal, a vision, a 'pink dream' of your life together, where you exist in complete harmony, complementing and enhancing each other.

What is a 'Perfect Vision'?

The 'perfect vision' is your shared aspiration, the pinnacle of your relationship, the depiction of your life together at its best. It's like the tip of a triangle, with its base symbolizing the current distance between you and your partner, and the tip signifying your shared goal, your common vision.

In this vision, there is no distance between you. You fully merge into each other, creating a perfect image of unity, which can only be achieved together.

This exercise takes you through the journey of creating, refining, and continuously updating this vision. It's like sketching and resketching a painting until it perfectly mirrors your shared dreams and aspirations. By focusing on this vision and acting as if you are already in that state, you begin to attract the forces that will lead you there, gradually reducing the distance between the base and the tip of the triangle.

As you move through this exercise, remember to retain a realistic approach. The idea is not to escape from your daily challenges and conflicts but to view and handle them from the perspective of your perfect vision, keeping the ultimate goal of unity at the forefront.

Exercise

The creation of your perfect vision is an active, ongoing process, much like painting a detailed masterpiece, each brushstroke adding more depth, color, and vibrancy. Here are some steps to help you create and maintain this vision:

  1. Creation of The Perfect Vision: Initiate a discussion about your 'happily-ever-after'. Describe a future where both of you live a happy life, fused into one harmonious entity. There are no right or wrong answers. It's an exploration of your shared dreams and aspirations. Remember to listen, accept, and build upon each other's ideas. Detail out this vision so that it becomes increasingly realistic and tangible. What does your perfect togetherness look like? What are the elements that make it ideal?
  2. Bridging the Present and the Perfect: Now, connect this perfect state with your current reality. Discuss how each other's requirements, needs, and expectations can align to gradually form this perfect vision. This exercise isn't about creating an illusory state of perfection but about realizing how your highest level of connection looks like and setting it as your relationship's north star.
  3. Living the Vision: Try to adjust your interactions to reflect this vision. Begin to relate to each other as if you are already in this perfect state. How would that version of you handle conflicts, express love, or support each other? Simultaneously, be mindful of the present realities and differences that you need to bridge.

Remember, this perfect vision isn't a destination you reach and then halt. It's a beacon that guides your journey, and the journey itself becomes a process of continuous growth, mutual understanding, and deeper love. As you evolve individually and as a couple, this vision will evolve too, ever guiding you to a stronger, more unified, and fulfilling relationship.

Perfect Vision Worksheet

To make this journey more concrete, here's a simple worksheet to guide you:

Part 1: Describe Your Perfect Vision

  • What does your 'happily-ever-after' look like?
  • How do you complement, encourage, and support each other?
  • What does your highest level of connection look like?

Part 2: Bridge Your Present and Perfect Vision

  • Discuss your present needs, expectations, and differences.
  • How can these be molded to form your perfect vision?
  • Identify actions that can be taken towards achieving this vision.

Part 3: Live the Vision

  • How would you interact if you were already living this vision?
  • What can you do today to start behaving as if you are already there?

Continue to revisit this exercise regularly, refining your perfect vision as you grow together.